Drama

I think leaders, ministry leaders especially, are constantly dealing with drama.

Trying to figure out the balance between caring for people and managing the seemingly constant bombardment of drama that some people cary with them.

At times we think that if we dismiss someone’s incessant drama we will be perceived as someone who doesn’t care.

We don’t want to neglect those with legitimate need. What I have found to be true over 25 years of ministry is if we allow ourselves to be controlled or caught up by those who continually stir up, participate in and talk about negative things all the time we will neglect those who are in desperate need of our help.

Let’s face it, we want to help everyone and we want to be seen as pastoral so we tolerate those who live and breathe drama.

I learned long ago that there are those who want and need constant attention, and even if there is not a problem they will create one so they feel normal. Their normal is chaos and what makes them feel good is not coming out of the chaos but bringing others into the chaos. They have an issue with wanting emotional control.

The only way to break free from emotional control is to say no.

No

I will not let you dominate my time.
I will not let you project your drama on to me.
I will not let you suck the life out of me

Have you ever thought that freedom for that person lies within the parameters that others set for them. If there is no demand there will be no supply.

Meaning, if they run out of places to take their drama, the drama will subside.

So when dealing with those who thrive on drama, don’t worry about the accusations of you not caring or loving etc. If we entertain that type of thinking we fuel the fire of drama.

You care most when you clearly understand the situation and act appropriately, and sometimes the appropriate response is no.

It’s this simple don’t let their bondage become your prison. Give them the key to unlock themselves.

Greater Things Conference

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What I’m about to say to some will seem overdone, dramatic, and overly zealous, but I’ll say it anyway. In the deepest part of myself I can hear a loud thunderous voice saying Church, wake up!

It is time for all those who call themselves Christian to be just that. Christian, “Christ Like”. The expression of the love and heart of God! The heart of God is to love people. All people, all ethnicities, all socio-economic backgrounds, everyone, everywhere!

It’s our role to heal the hurting, bind up the wounded, help those in need and share the Gospel. It’s not about anything else. It’s only about love, compassion and justice for everyone.

We are here at this conference and we have heard from some major players in the world of compassion and justice outreaches. The one thing that’s clear is God is trying to get the attention of the church to get back to His heart.

Here are are some quotes from different speakers.

“Compassion is never compassion until we roll up our sleeves and cross the street”. -ChristineCaine

“Compassion is central to Christianity not peripheral, If we are not loving our neighbor we are not loving God, period”- ChristineCaine.

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“God placed the church on a battleship, and we’ve turned it into a cruise ship” – Myles Mcphereson

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“We study love the least when it is the most important thing in Christianity” – Joyce Meyer

“Love is the highest form of spiritual warfare we can do” – Joyce Meyer

“You can actually hide from God in church.” – Joyce Meyer

“We’ve given our Job to the government. The government is not anointed to minister to the poor the church is.” -Joyce Meyer.

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God has called us to Love. No excuses, no resistance, no inhibition. The greatest commandment is to love Him and love others.

Will you let God use you to do greater things?

Be the Solution

We can’t do everything, but we can do something, and we refuse to do nothing! This is a paraphrase of a quote from the remarkable Helen Keller.

She reminds us that doing what we can has great value. It seems that more and more we are becoming increasingly aware of injustice in the world. Let’s take a step beyond awareness to action.

It’s not enough to know we need a solution, or even to come up with a solution. We need to be the solution. Act on what we know. Like building a school in the third world or clothing orphans or training workers.

Help us be the solution for the impoverished in Cambodia, Rwanda, and Uganda.

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Too much to tell…

As I sit here in my hotel room thinking about what to write, I can’t find the words. The last two days have been profound in so many ways. We have had the opportunity to spend time with kids who have lost their parents, and have been taken in by two of the best people I have ever met.

I have seen the personification of the word hero. Two people, Pastors, who have dedicated their lives to the care of children who have been thrown on the trash heap of life, and no one wanted. Oh and its not just for the kids. Although he loves the kids and is a wonderful dad. But He said something today that was profound. He said one of the reasons that they do this and they can keep doing this, is because they know that when people see that Christians will take these kids in and help them get an education, clothes, food, care. It sends a message Jesus is the answer. This is just another way for him to witness of the Gospel with his life.

It was sad to leave the kids today, but at the same time it felt so good to be able to reach out to them and show them the love of Jesus. The future leaders of tomorrow are very possibly living in the hope center, I’m so glad that we are taking the time to mentor them and provide for them. They are little dreamers and they will make a difference in the earth.

Thanks
David

Something to Say about INJUSTICE


Its encouraging to see how many people are becoming aware to the injustices and need around us and around the globe. So many great organizations are taking it as their responsibility to do something about injustice. Many are attacking this plight on humanity called “Human Trafficking.” Slavery is as real today as its ever been in the history of the world. We are going to stop it however, by Speaking out, Reaching out, and Helping out.

Many are attacking the injustice of hunger. There are families right here in the US and around the world, who are hungry. My wife being a teacher sees it all the time. Kids who are not being cared for well, either hungry or sick because of the lack of good food. The issue around the world is unbelievable. Just what I have seen in the places I have been will blow your mind to think that people live in these conditions. We are doing our best to do something about it. Yes these situations occur for different reasons, and truthfully those things need to be dealt with, but in the mean time, we will not let the innocent suffer the injustice because of some judgement we are making. How is this injustice being dealt with? People are Speaking out, Reaching out, and Helping out.

We could go on and on, about poverty, about exploitation, about clean water, about orphans, and homelessness, and when we look at all of this, it makes us afraid, overwhelmed, feel hopeless, and an over all resignation that there is nothing we can do. Truth is the way things change in the world, is by the pattern I’m talking about now. What we can do is very simple, and doable if we truly have passion to do it. Speak out, Reach out, and Help out.

Because I spend time developing ministry and projects to address these issues, and raise money to help with this and take trips to do the work, I have learned something very real. We can’t do everything, but we can do something. Truthfully if everyone did something, we could wipe out, some of the injustice in the world.

So join me in the following.

SPEAK OUT! Do some research, become and expert on the issues and talk about the problems, make people aware of what is going on. Share stories and solutions, force people to get their head out of the sand, and realize we are our brothers keeper. Talk it up.

However without action TALK IS CHEAP!

REACH OUT! So now that you’re speaking out, start reaching out. Align yourself with people who are doing something. Reach out to them and partner up. Reach out to those who are on the front lines and support. Things don’t change because we wish they would. They change because we do something about it. Doing something about it costs money. Some go, and Some send, but everyone can do their part. Don’t remain isolated and indifferent, reach out.

Now you’re speaking out, and reaching out, good, one more step though.

HELP OUT! Its not enough to speak or reach, we must cross the barrier, find out what we can actually do, and do it. When we first started thinking we could do something, it was daunting, but we realized, there are people who stand around overwhelmed, there are people who talk forever about grandiose plans for change, and then there are people who actually take steps, however small, and do something. We decided, we would be the latter. Whether locally, or globally, we would do what we could. What we have found is that over the years, the little we can do, turns in to generational blessings and help for people who are suffering injustice. We starting helping out.

So there you have it. The pattern for change, for dealing with injustice. SPEAK OUT, REACH OUT, HELP OUT!

Please share your thoughts, solutions, and concerns about injustice. Lets right the wrongs around the world.

David

A revolution of Service

I have been so proud of our team over the last two days.  Yesterday we were finishing up our seven days of Servolution.  Our project was to help with the CARE program at the MWC police department.  Our team started gathering early and preparing to go in and help.  Something happen that changed everything.  A fire started in MWC and spread over a significant area of MWC and Choctaw.  We know now that 49 people were injured, and 50 houses were a total loss with others being badly damaged and still others with smoke damage.

The police told us with everyone being called in, there would be no way we could do the project we had planned, they suggested we go over the the community center and see if there was something we could do there.  At the same time, the leader of this project and one of our other guys in the church called and said why don’t we turn our servolution project into helping the evacuees, of which there were hundreds.  So I stopped and picked up a lot of supplies told our team who were already in their “serve team” shirts to head to the community center and start setting up supplies.  We called on other serve teams to join us, and just set up and started helping people.

Giving out water, and food, and toys for the kids.  We started thinking, “who could we partner with?”  So we called starbucks and they supplied coffee and Hot chocolate.  Krispy Kreme provided donuts.  There were pets so a vet brought dog and cat food and treats.  People just started showing up and giving us hot food, to pass out, people in the community started coming in and saying where can I serve.

We worked with the Red Cross, what Great People they are and an incredible organization.  There were also folks there from the Southern Baptist Disaster relief organization, incredible servants everyone.   I must say that the MWC community leaders, the city council, the police, and firemen, The officials, and the leaders of the community center, Were so sharp.  This city and its leaders have their act together.  The sherriffs, the city manager, so many people and organizations working together to help others.  We were so blessed just to be part.

There were so many churches sheltering people and helping people, our friends the Burchetts at Eastpointe brought their people together today and really helped the people who have so much damage and loss and the public servants working so hard as well.

So there are some things I learned.

1.  Don’t set back and call leaders in the fray and ask them what you can do to help, they don’t have time to figure it out for you and at the moment don’t know what to tell you.  Just get into the fray with them, and start serving.  This is the best thing you can do.  The church is not an outsider in the community it is a part of the community.

2.  Partner, Partner, Partner….You have connections others don’t have and they have connections you don’t have.

3.  Realize that people want to help.

4.  Wear matching shirts so you can be easily identified and people can come to you for help.

5.   Help the kids, if they can be connected with it gives their parents a chance to think, and rest a minute.

6.  Be open to jump in and do what you can without hesitation, be willing to say yes, when needed.

7.  Your team will give over and above, and people will always rise to the occasion.

8.  Always be thinking about the next step.

9.  Serve the servants.  First responders put it all on the line, and have no time to stop and take care of themselves, so serve them as well as the victims of the disaster.

This was really a great way to solidify a servolution culture in our team.

I invite you to join the party and embrace what our friend Dino Rizzo Cause a “Servolution!”