You use steel to sharpen steel, and one friend sharpens another. (Proverbs 27:17 MSG)
What are friends for? One of the greatest relational crimes there is, is the misappropriation of friendship. In other words using friendship for something other than its intended use.
The mistake many of us make is thinking that true friends while always being there for us and us for them, should just accept and pacify our behavior regardless, and most of the time be threatened with being defriended or accused of not being a real friend if they speak up.
The truth is the purpose of a friend is to sharpen one another. True friendship while loving no matter what, loves so much that it betters the friends in the friendship. Love accepts
But it also corrects. Love cares but it also challenges.
A person who won’t receive from a friend the things required to sharpen themselves is no friend at all but rather is an emotional leach looking to drain the life out of anyone who would dare be their friend.
How to sharpen and be sharpened.
1. Don’t be afraid to be challenged on your thinking and behavior by a friend who loves you.
2. Don’t be afraid to speak up when your friend is out of bounds and needs help.
3. Realize that true compassion challenges a person to change.
4. Don’t ordain yourself your friends number one critic and coach, attitude is everything.
5. Don’t let insecurity hinder your growth by boxing in your friendships to only include surface emotional appeasement
Get a friend be a friend, and get sharp.