Camp Rock 2, the place to talk

Well, that was the cheesiest movie ever, so why did I like it so much?  The same reason I like a lot of those shows, cause my nine year old daughter does. One of the most effective tools as a parent is to do things your kids enjoy. So much of the time we make kids come into our world if they want to interact with us, whether they like it or not, whether its fun for them or not. I know that we can’t always just play around and its good for our kids to see the real side of things at times, but the truth is we should definitely be comfortable doing things they enjoy.

I’ve found that trying to get your kids to talk to you by asking, “so how was your day?”  or “What did you do today?”  You will get answers like, “great,” or “nothing.”  Try this, go hang out with them, doing something they like, and they will start talking and opening up to you like never before, and when they do, be ready for it.  Those are times that can be real valuable to your child, and to you as a parent.  So if I have to sit through movies where they break out into song every few minutes and have the cheesiest themes, I am more than willing to do that to connect withe the coolest kid I know, Sydney Kate Gadberry, and who knows, I may secretly like the Jonas Brothers.


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An Ugly Word

Confrontation-to challenge someone face to face.  To most people that word even sounds ugly.  Confrontation is not something people enjoy, or even want to think about.  There are all kinds of reasons why someone thinks of confrontation as negative.  We don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings.  We don’t like the thought of correcting someone.  We are afraid of their response.  We think its easier to just let it go.

The truth is confrontation is a wonderful thing.  A great opportunity to teach and train, a perfect time to lead.  This morning I met with my interns and we discussed this concept.  It seemed to help them so i will share this with you.

Here is what I know and have experienced about Confrontation.

1.  One of the major differences between leaders who are highly successful and those who are not, is their willingness to confront.

Real leaders will confront issues, people, and problems and deal with them head on.  They understand that denial is not an option.  Problems whether external or internal do not just go away, they have to be dealt with.  Confrontation is key to growing and developing as a person, and an organization.

2.  If you want to lead you have to confront.

Confrontation is literally a test of your leadership.  If you can’t lead someone through something that needs to change in them, how do you expect to lead something significant.  Confrontation is leadership.  You are influencing someone to acknowledge the need for change, and helping them to change it, to better themselves and help the team.  Thats leadership.  You can’t have one without the other.  Leadership takes courage and a part of being courageous as a leader is to be excellent at confrontation.

3.  Avoiding confrontation is just delaying and ensuring a major conflict.

As stated before, problems, issues, people with problems or issues, don’t just go away, they have to be dealt with.  Many people make the mistake of denying the problem.  They think, “maybe if I just ignore it, things will get back to normal.”  The problem is they don’t.  It just festers, gains energy, involves more people and becomes a full blown conflict.  Sad part is, it doesn’t have to go there. It could have been confronted, dealt with and everyone moves forward.  We think if we just ignore it, people won’t get hurt.  The truth is ignoring it is what causes it to grow, and become a conflict, then people do get hurt.

4.  You can confront, and It can be done right!

You can confront people’s issues or problems and they love you for it.  There is ever only one motivation to confront, and that is because you care for the person you are confronting.  You genuinely have their best intrest in mind.  The good part is it’s also best for the organization and you personally, but those things can’t be your motive.  You  must want to confront becuase you care for the person and this will help them grow.  That is how you do it right.

5.  Jesus was a great confronter.

Read John 4.  Jesus confronts the woman at the well.  He was a master at helping her realize what needed to change, while caring for her at the same time.

Read John 8.  Jesus confronts the religious leaders about their judgmental attitude, and at the same time confronts the woman caught in the act of adultery, all with Love.

There are many more examples.  If Jesus lead by confrontation then it is an excellent method.

6.  So, How do we do it?

a.  Admit it needs to be done.

b.  Do it at the right time, sooner than later

c.  Pray for God’s wisdom before you confront.

d.  Use it as a teaching moment

e.  Be positive and caring

f.  No hinting or beating around the bush.  Get directly to the point.

g.  Tell them what they are doing right.

h.  Don’t change your behavior towards them.  Deal with it, forgive, and let it go

I.  Don’t make the meeting long, get it done.

J.  Don’t make it a bigger deal than it is.  (No Drama)

So Confrontation is not so ugly after all, and it will positively effect your life, and your organization. Do it!

Here we come Africa

I’m a bit disappointed in myself, about how long its been sense i’ve blogged. Truthfully however, its been a time of real focus, and moving in a good direction. So now I am getting ready to leave for Africa in Just about 15 days. Its going to be a memorable trip, and we have a great team. 14 men and women who are trained and ready to go. Excited about the chance to make a difference in the lives of African Men, women, and Children.

Be looking for more blogs and vlogs in the next few days leading up to the trip and through the trip. I think you will be inspired by what you see. We can’t do everything, but we can do something, and we refuse to do nothing. Global Reach for Justice. God help us to make a difference.

David

Global Reach for Justice to Rwanda, and Uganda

Our Next trip to Africa is coming soon. It’s June 14-26. In years past we have taken two teams at the same time split up, one team went to Rwanda, one team to Uganda. This year we are taking everyone to both places. This trip will be fast paced, but high impact for so many. We will continue our efforts with the medical clinic in Rwanda. Giving many people the chance to see a dr, and get some basic medical care that is hard or impossible for them to get otherwise. This clinic is in a district that has a high rate of sex trade, so the needs are serious. We will also continue to reach out to the next generation by having a next generation festival, filled with music, and speaking and a whole lot of fun! We believe the hope for Rwanda lies in the young generation. We will also be continuing our Pastors and leaders training. The leaders there can make so much more impact than we can, but they need training, and they are hungry for it. Our efforts in Uganda will include, building a classroom for the watoto village. Making a place for generational impact. We will also help with a young pastor who is planting a church. Our whole desire is to impact the lives of people with the message of the Gospel as well as the actions of the Gospel. We believe it is the churches responsibility to help others, locally, regionally, nationally and globally. Help us make a difference in the lives of those who want and need the opportunity to have a bright future. To help go to http://www.harvestokc.com. Thanks for your prayer and Giving to support us in making a difference around the world. Justice simply put is righting wrongs. Some go some send, but all can do their part.

Thanks
David

Something to Say about Leading Progress

“Leading to Progress Takes Courage”

Joshua 1:6-9 (NKJ)
6 Be strong and of good courage, for to this people you shall divide as an inheritance the land which I swore to their fathers to give them. 7 Only be strong and very courageous, that you may observe to do according to all the law which Moses My servant commanded you; do not turn from it to the right hand or to the left, that you may prosper wherever you go. 8 This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate in it day and night, that you may observe to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success. 9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid, nor be dismayed, for the LORD your God is with you wherever you go.”

(MSG)
In the same way I was with Moses, I’ll be with you. I won’t give up on you; I won’t leave you. Strength! Courage! You are going to lead this people to inherit the land that I promised to give their ancestors. Give it everything you have, heart and soul. Make sure you carry out The Revelation that Moses commanded you, every bit of it. Don’t get off track, either left or right, so as to make sure you get to where you’re going. And don’t for a minute let this Book of The Revelation be out of mind. Ponder and meditate on it day and night, making sure you practice everything written in it. Then you’ll get where you’re going; then you’ll succeed. Haven’t I commanded you? Strength! Courage! Don’t be timid; don’t get discouraged. God, your God, is with you every step you take.”

Question: Why do we need courage? We need courage to be brave in the face of fear. Fear is our enemy. Any kind of fear is our enemy. Fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of resistance, fear of opportunity, fear of people, fear of leadership. Fear is going to raise its ugly head in us any time we face a challenge, courage is the answer to that fear. Courage is important.

In Chapter one of Joshua it says be strong, take courage, and not fear four times. God is trying to get across to Joshua that Courage is important to leadership.

Why do we need courage?

1. For the pursuit of the dream vs 6
a. Owning the dream takes courage.
b. Think about the disciples after Jesus ascended. They had to rely on the Holy Spirit to give them power to be courageous, most of them all the way to their death.
c. The enormity of the dream can intimidate you (just another word for fear)
d. The enemies of the dream can sidetrack you.
i. Distractions
ii. Procrastination
iii. Personal doubt
e. others opinions of the dream can scare us.
i. The only opinion that matters about the dream is Gods.

2. To do what’s right vs 7
a. It takes courage to be a leader because real leaders do what’s right even when its not popular. Even when its hard, even when no one else is.
b. It takes courage to stick to the plan
c. Joshua did what was right even when those following him didn’t.
d. Think of the Apostle Paul when he called Peter out for his obvious hypocrisy.

3. Fear itself vs 8-9
a. You have to have courage as a leader simply to combat fear. Not fear of things but fear itself. Fear paralyzes, it puts a pause in your purpose.
b. You have to have courage to push fear back when all your circumstances are screaming you should be afraid. God said to Joshua do not be afraid do not be dismayed. In other words don’t let anxiety rule you.

4. Fear of leading people vs 16-18
a. Jeremiah 1….do not be afraid of their faces.
b. Courage in the face of responsibility for people
c. Courage in the face of the inconsistency of people
d. Courage in the face of the complaints of people
e. Courage in the face of the imperfection in people.

Courage is the ability to look fear in the face, and keep moving forward. If we are going to lead to progress, then fear can not rule us. Opinion can not rule us. Courage must be our central charecteristic. Progress is necessary but not inevitable. Someone has to lead to it. So lets lead, and see people’s lives changed because we are not afraid to do it!

Something to say about closing school and church because its cold…

I’m sure I’m not the only one who’s thought this, but I am a little stunned by the fact that we would closed school because its cold. I understand that many in OKC walk to school, I understand, because we don’t normally have this intense cold most are not geared up for it. I just can’t believe that we couldn’t come up with a more creative solution than to just close school. Now it doesn’t bother me, or cause me or my family any inconvenience i just thought is was strange that we would do that.

Second thought, I more than couldn’t believe the churches that I saw canceling services because it was cold. Come on guys, how do you build a church, convince people who are raised on not being inconvenienced to commit to a the cause of the kingdom when all it takes is a little cold weather to cancel services.

I know, I know you probably have reasons I don’t know about. However, lets gain some perspective. There are people all over this world, who in extreme heat, and extreme cold will travel hours and set in buildings with no heat and no air, because they are so hungry to worship God and hear his word.

My whole point here, is lets not look for ways to get out of things, lets have the attitude that come hell or high water, we are moving forward, and we are serving the kingdom.

Not meant to offend but, thats what I have to say about that.

For the school system, come on, we all know there are places in the country that have much colder weather and their in school, to the churches, come on, what’s up with that?

Thanks
David

“Workisms”

A while back I was teaching our staff, and I invented a word. “Workisms” I gave our staff several “workisms” that I felt would make us more effective and efficient. Here they are maybe they will help you as well.

“Workisms”

1. While at work, work. (come to work ready to earn your pay, and work with purpose)

2. While at work, work on work related to work. (focus on what you are there to do, with today’s distractions we waste a lot of time, which causes stress and pressure in the long run)

3. Leave work at work when you go home from work (in many occupations like mine, its 24/7, but you have to have some time when you let your mind rest, and you definitely don’t have to submerge your family in your work)
Ministry is a bit different because you are not just doing a job but living for a cause.

4. Don’t interrupt another’s work with your work. (Think before you intrude on someone else and change the direction of their day, can you figure it out, have you researched all the options?)

5. Think through your work then work out your thoughts. (Learn be a problem solver and develop the skill of articulating the solution)

6. When you work, consider how your work effects the work of the workers around you. (You’re a team player, act like it).

7. Work in a way that releases those working over you and empower the workers under you and enhances the work of the workers next to you. (Have initiative, and be cooperative. Great team players raise the level of everyone’s game)

8. Work with a workable attitude where all workers can expect you to work with them. (Don’t be antagonistic)

9. Discipline your work, and work your discipline, so the worker over you does not have to work you over. (why make it hard on your boss? Your boss should be able to trust that if your on the project there are no worries).

10. When you work with excellence, excellence will be visable in your work. (You don’t have to be pretentious or try to impress, if you approach your work with excellence it will show up in your work and people will be impressed).

11. Plan your work and work your plan at work. (be prepared)

Don’t know if it helps you but it was fun for us.

So there you have Gadberry’s “workisms”

David