Out of the Archives 2 (Excited to be Invited)

“People are Excited to be Invited”

Sitting here in starbucks working on leadership track development, about to shift gears to meet with some of our male pastors to brainstorm the Total Man Retreat for 2011. So in the few minutes I have before they get here, I want to share with you my experience with inviting people to church. I do and have always loved the opportunities to share the love of Jesus with people. Really get in deep conversation about it and lead them to a relationship with Him. However that doesn’t always happen in every conversation we have with people who we would want to come to church. Many times you have time to merely invite people. We use a tool at harvest called an invite card. Its a business card type of an invitation. It has the information for our campuses on it, and leaves a blank place we can put your name and number. I use these all the time.

My experience with inviting people to church is simple. People are excited to be invited. I haven’t invited anyone to church yet that was antagonistic to me, or rejected me. They don’t always come but I have never been treated badly when I have invited someone to come to church. Its a compliment to someone to be invited somewhere. I say this just to encourage everyone, the normal everyday person, no matter what the “experts” say, are not antagonistic towards the church, or to those who would invite them. I think sometimes people “experts” make these sweeping statements about how people view the church, that are based on pop culture, but I encourage you to ask the next person who says something like that, “How many people have you invited to church, and how did they respond?” Usually the extreme silence gives you the answer.

So, here are some easy practical ways to invite people to church or engage them in a conversation about Christ.

1. Change your thinking: From they don’t want to hear, and don’t want to be invited, to, They are excited to be invited.

I believe that most people would at least try church out if they were invited to go. What are you losing to Invite them?

2. Just invite them.

Be friendly, look for a time in the conversation before you go separate ways to invite them to come to church with you.

3. Be available for a conversation.

Slow down a bit and be available to talk. When you are in a public place don’t be glued to your phone, look up and engage people. People want, and love to talk. Be available for the conversation and the opportunity will present itself to invite them to church.

4. Use a tool to help you.

If you have something like an invite card, use it. It provides you with something to give, it helps you give them information that will keep you connected.

5. Look for opportunities to do something Kind for someone.

This always creates an open door to talk about Jesus or invite them to church, because they want to know why you did that for them.

6. look outside your family, and close friends.

What’s wrong with inviting someone you have met for the first time? Remember they are excited to be invited!

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Out of the Archives

This was written in 2009…

Mother…
What could I say, that hasn’t been said a million times about mothers. I have a terrific mother. She’s not perfect but she loves her kids dearly and wants the best for them. She has always been good to us, and cared for us, and served us. All of our lives. I have a terrific mother in law who is the same with her kids, and thank God has accepted me as one of her own. I have friends who are moms, and it is a unique role to be a mom.

Lets face it moms do more than we can really say. It would be impossible to document a job description for a mother. It would be thousands of books long.

I have seen so many great examples of good mothers, oh I know there are some out there that aren’t so good, but for the most part moms are just a special breed.

The best mom I know however, and I say this without reservation, is my wife. Janae Is a great mom. There is really not much that she’s not good at, but being a mom is definitely at the top of her list of talents. Why? Here are some reasons I think Janae is the best mom ever.

1. She cares. No, really, sincerely cares about our girls and every step of their lives are important to her. We have frequent conversations about how they are doing, and how she can help them. She cares about their feelings, their physical health, their academics, their esteem, and what they care about.

2. She wants to understand. Many times I want them to understand me, but Janae has this ability to get to the middle of it, to hear what’s really being said. She has an empathy that goes far beyond compassion. She understands.

3. She laughs. She laughs at the girls, with the girls and makes the girls laugh. We laugh a lot at the Gadberry house. At life, at funny people, at ourselves, and at each other, and with each other. She loves to laugh.

4. She prays. Janae prays for our family and for our girls. She prays for their present, and their future. She prays for the best for them, for the favor of God on their lives, for them to make good decisions, and for God to direct their lives.

5. She talks. Janae has a tremendous wealth of wisdom. she has a practical common sense approach to life, that is grounded in the truth, and she shares those principles with her girls.

6. She models. She’s a teacher, a very gifted and talented teacher, who takes these motherly qualities and puts them to work in her second grade class and she gets tremendous results. My girls can look at her and see godliness, kindness, strength, courage, faith, hard work, smart decisions, and a normal person who loves life.

So, you can probably read this and say this was a self indulgent attempt to brag on my wife, well ok, your probably right but every bit of it is true, and If i was going to tell any young woman how to learn to be a mother, I would simply say, watch Janae, do what she does and you will raise children, who will rise up and call you blessed!

Happy Mothers day all you great mothers out there. We love you and thank you for all that you do, and have done, and will do!