Far to many of us live life in a reactionary way. Merely surviving, change that, merely existing.
Life is much more effective and meaningful when it’s lived on purpose. Parenting, like life, is much less impacting when it’s done in a reactionary way as opposed to a proactive way.
Just because we can’t control everything in life doesn’t mean we can’t control some thing’s. We can control our choices. We can control our decision making. We can control the way we approach parenting.
Having a great family doesn’t just happen. It’s intentional. Having great kids doesn’t just happen its intentional.
You might say sometimes people are intentional about parenting and their kids don’t do well. Maybe so, however you have a lot better chance of things working out better if you’re intentional about it.
Fathers, don’t exasperate your children by coming down hard on them. Take them by the hand and lead them in the way of the Master. (Ephesians 6:4 MSG)
The first part of this verse tells us how not to parent. If you’ll notice the implication is that these are reactive behaviors. The second part of the verse tells us how to parent effectively, notice these are intentional purposeful behaviors. “take them by the hand and lead them.”
Don’t just have kids and hang out with them and expect everything will be fine. Decide what you expect from yourself as a parent, and what the expectations for your family are. What is your purpose? Then make choices that will accomplish that goal.
1. Do I have expectations for myself, my kids, and my family?
2. Am I letting life act on me or am I acting on life?
3. Am I taking time to think about and work out our expectations for our kids and family or are we just going along to get along?
I’m challenging myself to make daily decisions to parent with purpose and know the results will be fruitful.
1. Prayer. Pray for my kids, their future, our relationship, and their purpose daily.
2. Communication. Talking to and listening to each other until we come to mutual understanding.
3. Give clear, concise, guidance and direction. In order to be purposeful, your kids must know where you stand. Hypocrisy is a parents enemy.
4. Lead to the goal. Ask yourself an honest question: if my kids follow me where will they end up?
Parent on purpose. It will release the potential in your children.