How to Get and keep Friends

A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. (Proverbs 18:24 NKJV)

Good friends are such a benefit to our lives. They can lift, encourage, strengthen, protect, correct and love in a way that truly makes a difference.

However acquiring friends, especially good friends is not automatic to being around people.

I love the above proverb, because in essence it’s telling us we can have friends if we try and not just friends but friends who are closer, even, than our own family.

Friends don’t just happen. If you want friends you have to be a friend. I use to have a problem connecting with people one to one. I could speak to hundreds even thousands and feel no intimidation, but connecting with one person for an elongated period of time was out of the question.

Until a mentor in my life knowing I needed to cultivate friendships, and knowing how important good strong friendships are in life, challenged me and taught me how to connect and over time I have developed friends, some of which truly are as close and even closer than my own family.

It’s important that we have and
That we are the kind of friends that care as much or more than family.

I can honestly say I have friends who have seen me through tough situations, and I’ve seen friends through tough situations. Friendship is powerful but it must be acquired and maintained.

How to get and keep friends.

1. Make it a priority

If we don’t realize how important it is, we won’t get out of our comfort zone to achieve it.

2. Connect with people who are different than you.

Finding great friends requires having many acquaintances.

3. Give kindness and compassion.

While looking for opportunities to help others you will make some of the best friends ever.

4. Be open.

Don’t live your life closed off, hiding in the crowd. Be a bit vulnerable and reach for relationships.

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