Did We Do Enough?


She’s smart, beautiful, mature, socially adept, and purpose driven. I have no doubt in her as a person, no doubt she will move forward with rapid progress and purpose. I couldn’t be more proud of her accomplishments and future potential.

As a parent however, I keep asking myself, “have I done enough?” have my wife and I taught her all the life lessons we could have? Have we given her the full benefit of our experience.

I realize our job is not over but in large part in a way we have crossed a line that none of us will return from. Enter adulthood.

The conclusion I’ve come to is we’ve done the best we could. We haven’t been perfect, we have made mistakes, but we can honestly say we gave her our best effort as parents and as much love as we could muster. We can’t take credit for how well she’s turned out, the glory for that goes to God, but we are so proud of how she has submitted her life to Jesus and His purpose for it.

She is a world changer and although I still wonder if we’ve done enough, I can release her to the next phase of her life without fear or inhibition.

I don’t normally write about family things in this way and not sure if there is much to learn from this blog, but I’m sure there are many parents this time of year who are feeling the same way.

I love Taylor Janae Gadberry and I can’t wait to watch her change her world.

How to Get and keep Friends

A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. (Proverbs 18:24 NKJV)

Good friends are such a benefit to our lives. They can lift, encourage, strengthen, protect, correct and love in a way that truly makes a difference.

However acquiring friends, especially good friends is not automatic to being around people.

I love the above proverb, because in essence it’s telling us we can have friends if we try and not just friends but friends who are closer, even, than our own family.

Friends don’t just happen. If you want friends you have to be a friend. I use to have a problem connecting with people one to one. I could speak to hundreds even thousands and feel no intimidation, but connecting with one person for an elongated period of time was out of the question.

Until a mentor in my life knowing I needed to cultivate friendships, and knowing how important good strong friendships are in life, challenged me and taught me how to connect and over time I have developed friends, some of which truly are as close and even closer than my own family.

It’s important that we have and
That we are the kind of friends that care as much or more than family.

I can honestly say I have friends who have seen me through tough situations, and I’ve seen friends through tough situations. Friendship is powerful but it must be acquired and maintained.

How to get and keep friends.

1. Make it a priority

If we don’t realize how important it is, we won’t get out of our comfort zone to achieve it.

2. Connect with people who are different than you.

Finding great friends requires having many acquaintances.

3. Give kindness and compassion.

While looking for opportunities to help others you will make some of the best friends ever.

4. Be open.

Don’t live your life closed off, hiding in the crowd. Be a bit vulnerable and reach for relationships.

How to Lose a Friend


Overlook an offense and bond a friendship; fasten on to a slight and—good-bye, friend! (Proverbs 17:9 MSG)

This scripture can save you a lot of heartache, in your marriage, family and friend relationships.

Have you ever had a strained relationship and started thinking back to figure out what happened and realized the tension is empowered by some silly disagreement or offense?

It is so sad how we will lose a great relationship over some slight, or even misunderstanding.

This passage says basically if we really want to be close we will choose to overlook weaknesses and conflicts and choose to love anyway.

If we obsess over an offense or irritation with our friends and keep harping on it, and keep bringing it up. The result will be a broken relationship. How silly to lose a relationship over hurt feelings or being insecure.

I know if you are like me, relationships are important to you. We need them and want them in our lives, but friendship can be complicated and hurtful if we choose to wear our feelings on our sleeves.

How do we keep from losing a friend?

1. Forgive.

Its important that you are prepared to forgive because people will hurt you and not even mean to or even
be aware they did. If you can’t forgive and let it go you will lose the relationship.

2. Don’t talk negative about your friend.

If you have an issue with your friend communicate with them about it, get it resolved and let it go. Whatever you do, don’t get obsessed over it and talk it up. Especially not to others.

3. Realize that if you’re friends they care about you so if they hurt you it was probably an accident.

4. Realize you’re not perfect.

When we are easily offended and won’t let go of the offense, there is an unseen assertion that “we” would never do that.

Give the mercy you want to get. You’re gonna need it.

Let it go have a lasting friendship
Obsess over it and the friendship will be over.

Sharp as a Tack


You use steel to sharpen steel, and one friend sharpens another. (Proverbs 27:17 MSG)

What are friends for? One of the greatest relational crimes there is, is the misappropriation of friendship. In other words using friendship for something other than its intended use.

The mistake many of us make is thinking that true friends while always being there for us and us for them, should just accept and pacify our behavior regardless, and most of the time be threatened with being defriended or accused of not being a real friend if they speak up.

The truth is the purpose of a friend is to sharpen one another. True friendship while loving no matter what, loves so much that it betters the friends in the friendship. Love accepts
But it also corrects. Love cares but it also challenges.

A person who won’t receive from a friend the things required to sharpen themselves is no friend at all but rather is an emotional leach looking to drain the life out of anyone who would dare be their friend.

How to sharpen and be sharpened.

1. Don’t be afraid to be challenged on your thinking and behavior by a friend who loves you.

2. Don’t be afraid to speak up when your friend is out of bounds and needs help.

3. Realize that true compassion challenges a person to change.

4. Don’t ordain yourself your friends number one critic and coach, attitude is everything.

5. Don’t let insecurity hinder your growth by boxing in your friendships to only include surface emotional appeasement

Get a friend be a friend, and get sharp.

Hey Friend


Friends come and friends go, but a true friend sticks by you like family. (Proverbs 18:24 MSG)

Do you have any friends with whom your friendship goes way back, and even if you haven’t talked in a while, when you do it’s seems like you pick up right where you left off? Those kinds of
friends are so refreshing and life giving.

I just got off the phone with a friend who is like that for me and I hope
I’m that for him. As I’ve gotten older I’ve come to realize there are a lot of people who call themselves your friend but really don’t know the depth of the word

It’s a relationship that’s akin to covenant type thinking. In other words, I am yours and you are mine. I got your back and you got mine.

It’s based on love, a selfless consideration of others above yourself. It is refreshing, life giving and life changing.

Never underestimate the power of friendship. I encourage you, be a good friend and gather some good friends and value them highly.

Thank God for the concept, idea, and reality of friendship.