Pride lands you flat on your face; humility prepares you for honors. (Proverbs 29:23 MSG)
The secure Leader is confident, not arrogant. Authentic, not pretentious. No need to pretend when you know who you are.
It’s a huge mistake when we as leaders get confused about these terms. The problem with many leaders today is we think these words are synonyms.
Sometimes I think it’s good to look at the actual definition of a word to draw a contrast and clear up confusion.
Confidence – belief in ones self and abilities.
Arrogance – offensive display of superiority, or self importance; overbearing pride.
The secure leader is confident. It’s easy to follow someone who is confident. A person who believes in their vision and in their ability to achieve it. You have to have confidence to instill trust and inspire people to follow you to complete your vision and accomplish the Goal.
Many leaders have allowed their confidence to morph into an ugly arrogance. An attitude that says I’m better than you and you should feel lucky you get to be on my team. Arrogance is counterfeit confidence. It is drummed up pride to give the insecure leader the feeling that they are confident, and all the while they have very little confidence and are afraid, so they make a big show of how powerful they are.
The problem with this is no one wants to work with them and the right set of circumstance will rip off the veil and expose the truth to everyone.
Secure leaders are authentic people who know who they are. They’re confident because they know their own strengths and weaknesses and can acknowledge them without fear, leaving themselves the ability to build a team to get it done.
Insecure leaders pretend to be so strong and perfect. They end up crashing and burning because they send the message “I don’t need you.” they end up alone and embarrassed because they spent all that time pretending they were something they aren’t and end up proving they were out of their depth to begin with.
As you can see, the best way to lead is from a place of security and confidence. Just be yourself and believe that you can do it. When you know who you are there is no reason to pretend.
1. Remember no one succeeds alone
No one, no matter how individual their success seems, succeeds on their own.
2. Get in touch with yourself.
Don’t allow yourself to have a fantasy version of you. Be real. If you want to know who you really are ask your family, and those who are close enough to tell you the truth. They will be sure to give you some perspective.
3. Be comfortable in your own skin.
It’s ok to emulate it is not ok to duplicate.
4. Don’t believe your own press whether positive or negative.
Keep your eyes on the goal and off of yourself.
5. Keep a servant perspective.
When your there to serve you don’t feel the pressure to put on a show for anyone.