Obama vs Romney


A politician recently came to my door to pitch for another politician. The way he started was to ridicule and talk negative about his friends opponent. He lost me when he went negative.

Well, it looks like Romney and Obama will be going head to head form this point till November.

I like to watch politics and for my kids to see it and understand how democracy works. However I am already getting the urge to just ignore it till its over.

If I were to advise the candidates at this point, I would ask them both to speak to solutions and changes that need to be made to put the nation in the direction of repair and progress.

I fear however that we are about to witness a political blood bath. Both sides attacking relentlessly all around the issues by personally attacking the other candidate. In my mind it doesn’t matter if you do it yourself or use others to do it it’s still just as vicious and ugly.

I fear that is what we have come to. It’s less about doing what’s right or standing on principle and more about merely winning the seat.

Saying what you mean, and meaning what you say has very little meaning in today’s political culture. Let’s face it, no matter which side your on telling lies is the norm. You can call it changing your mind if you want but truth is truth and deceit is deceit, and it sure seems convenient and timely when you change your mind.

I’m not normally cynical and don’t wish to be, nor do I want my kids to be, but this relativistic age we live in is wearing on me.

I want to be the kind of father who exemplifies honesty and integrity. Is it to much to ask that the leaders of our nation do the same?

So I implore all politicians out there, Remember what leadership is really all about and have the courage to have integrity again.




I think the question that should be asked to Ron Artest is why? It’s ridiculous with that video available for all to see to continue to allow him to continue to act as if it was an accident. His explanation literally sounded as if he was saying its unfortunate harden’s head was in my way.

I heard one commentator say its just looks bad in slow motion trying to make it sound like it wasn’t as bad as it looked. I think it reveals it. You can see him pull his arm back to the point of twisting his body to the degree he brought his foot off the ground. Then released it with such force it gave harden a concussion.

I thought it was right to eject him and honestly I think he should be out until next year at least, with the stipulation that he receives counseling.

I know that sounds extreme, but there was no reason. No scuffle, no mouthing, no pushing, no anger, he just dunks the ball then for no reason tries to knock out an opponent. He also should go through drug testing.

What makes less sense is his feeble attempts to explain it and act like it was an accident. What if the blow had been higher? What if it cost Harden his career? Its appalling that people are acting like its no big deal.

Something is wrong when someone does something like that unprovoked. I think it’s telling that he was ready to fight after he did it.

This is basketball, I understand aggressive play, but this is a different level.

So, why?

Try a Little Tenderness


In a world of terrorism, road rage, and mean spirited politics it can seem that kindness is a thing of the past. It can seem that no one is civil anymore.

I encourage you if you feel that way to step back take a deep breath, turn off the barrage of media negativity and think about it.

Most people are decent people, who want to get along with their neighbors and want to enjoy life. It seems that more and more we are letting that slip through our fingers.

I still believe the Bible and one prevalent principle teaches us that we reap what we sow.

Let’s all decide today to live the way Jesus taught us. “do to others as you want them to do to you.”

How to restore kindness.

1. Every morning think and pray
About who you can purposefully be kind to.

2. Decide you will do something nice on purpose to someone each day.

3. Decide to respond not react.

4. Just be nice.

Let’s bring kindness and civility back. You can stand for what you believe and not be mean about it.

The Secure Leader (final in series)


Secure leaders are not afraid for team members to be better than them. In their mind it equates to overall success not personal competition.

Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself with others. (Galatians 6:4 MSG)

Sadly many leaders are short sided or small minded. They find it hard to see the big picture because they refuse to look beyond themselves.

Secure leaders see far beyond themselves and even their organization to the greater cause of why they exist.

A secure leader surrounds himself with talented, skillful people high in character and competence. He is not threatened by them but embraces what they bring to the table, knowing that if everyone puts their best foot forward it benefits the whole team and is not a hindrance or harm to his own personal success but rather contributes to it.

The truth is being threatened by team members will stifle success. Hiring people that are far less gifted then you may make you feel big but will ultimately make your organization small.

Are you cooperating or competing with your team. Cooperating wins competing loses.

If you want to be successful surround yourself with people of high character, competence and consistency. Then enjoy them and turn them lose to use their skills and together you will build something worth having. You’re the leader you know it and they know it You don’t have to prove it. Just lead.


1. Know you who are.

If you’re confident in who you are then you’re free to let them be who they are.

2. Cooperate don’t compete.

You’re on the same team, work together, and allow your skills to sharpen each other.

3. Celebrate them.

Realize their strengths cover your weaknesses they don’t expose your weaknesses. It proves you know who you are and are comfortable with yourself.

4. Be the leader.

True leaders don’t have to remind everyone all the time or put others down, or hold others back to prove their leadership. They simply pull the team together and lead. If you can lead big people it makes you a big leader.

I would love to hear stories about secure leaders you’ve worked with or insecure leaders you’ve worked with and what it was like in either case.

If these secure leader blogs have been helpful to you feel free to share with others.

The Secure Leader 6


“Before I shaped you in the womb, I knew all about you. Before you saw the light of day, I had holy plans for you: A prophet to the nations-that’s what I had in mind for you.” But I said, “Hold it, Master God! Look at me. I don’t know anything. I’m only a boy!” God told me, “Don’t say, ‘I’m only a boy.’ I’ll tell you where to go and you’ll go there. I’ll tell you what to say and you’ll say it. Don’t be afraid of a soul. I’ll be right there, looking after you.” God’s Decree. (Jeremiah 1:5-8 MSG)

Secure leaders enjoy affirmation but don’t have to have it. They get their fulfillment in their purpose, not from popular opinion.

It’s always been amazing to me how important the opinion or affirmation of others are to a leader. I think every leader, if they are being honest, can Remember times when the affirmation or approval of others were entirely to important to them.

This is truly a significant difference between a secure leader and an insecure leader.

The insecure leader needs constant affirmation. In order to move forward they must have people who dote on them, and tell them how great they are. It’s almost as if affirmation is the fuel that keeps them going.

The sad part about this is in every leaders life there are times we must stand alone. It’s the very essence of leading. Sometimes you are standing out front by yourself.

The secure leader wants their followers to be with them, and to be happy, however their main goal is to reach their destination. To accomplish the purpose. They find their fulfillment and satisfaction in their purpose not in popular opinion.

The insecure leader will never get very far, because they are dependent on the emotional responses of others, and we all know how inconsistent that can be.

The secure leader will normally achieve their goal because they keep leading no matter what, realizing that’s what leadership is. Getting people from where they are to where they need to be whether they like it at first or not, or whether it’s hard or not.

Like Jeremiah, we need to keep our focus on what we were created for, our purpose as leaders and not on fearing those we are leading.

Remember affirmation and approval can be addicting. Leadership is not a popularity contest it is a journey of purpose.


1. Know your purpose.

It’s been said, if you don’t know where your going your not going to like where you end up.

2. Let fulfilling your purpose be enough.

People stroking your ego may feel good for the moment but it won’t be enough in the long haul. Especially when some of the same people will speak against you when they don’t agree.

3. Learn to affirm yourself.

Encourage yourself. Celebrate your wins.

4. Acknowledge your need for affirmation.

Every human being needs affirmation. It’s ok to get it and to give it, but we can not get addicted to it or make decisions based on it. Appreciate it and let it go.

Be secure in your purpose and don’t seek affirmation.

Happy Easter


Happy Easter! I am so thankful
That Jesus Christ, innocent as He was, paid the penalty for my Sin. His love overwhelms me. There is no greater love than a man would lay his life down for His friends.

I am so thankful that Jesus didn’t not allow death to hold Him but of His own volition defeated death, so that He could empower us to win victory over sin, death, hell and the grave.

Thank you God for Jesus and
The power of your Holy Spirit, who always causes us to triumph. What I could not do for myself, you did for me. I believe!

You are my King and Savior. My sin, shame, guilt are gone I’ve been set free!

If you need change in your life today call out on Jesus. He loves you more than you know.