Priority

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I want to encourage everyone that as this year passes and another one begins we don’t get to do it over. Let’s all keep that in our minds as we live day to day and prepare for our future.

I ask my wife today how did it happen? It seems like I was college age not long ago and now I have a daughter preparing for college in 2012. It goes so fast. We want to be able to say I used the time wisely especially when it comes to family, and sense we don’t get to do it over let’s live each day to make it count.

Our prayer is that you and your family have the best year yet in 2012. Be blessed and have a Happy New Year!

Reaching Goals in 2012

Over the years I have come to realize that In order to accomplish a goal there are specific principles that must be in practice. Goals don’t achieve themselves. We don’t arrive at the intended destination by merely talking about it. Don’t worry though we can accomplish every single thing we set out to do if we have the right tools, set the right deadlines, and connect with the right accountability partner.

1. The right tools

Whatever your goals may be, it’s imperative that you have the right tools to get it done. How do I know if it’s the right tool? If its simple, if it accommodates the achieving of your goal, if it doesn’t consume your life, if it works for you, instead of you working for it. I have found that whether your goal is physical, financial, relational, or spiritual if we have tools that are simple and motivating they will operate as a vehicle to carry us to the finish line. Our tools can’t be cumbersome or they will be ineffective. Keep it simple.

2. The right deadlines

One of the biggest mistakes we make in achieving goals is inappropriate deadlines. Trying to arrive at the finish line in an unreasonable amount of time.

Setting deadlines that are too soon will demotivate us and reinforce hopelessness. Setting deadlines that are too late will demotivate and reinforce procrastination. Be reasonable and achievement is yours.

3. The right accountability partner

Notice this doesn’t say partners. I think a mistake in goal setting is to get overly zealous and tell everyone about what you are trying to achieve. It puts undue pressure on you and centers your life around the goals instead of what the goals will accomplish. What you need is one or two people who motivate and challenge you and will be kind but accept no excuses. They also need to be willing to take some initiative in the process checking up on your progress.

These are just some thoughts that I’ve developed over the years in trying to achieve goals. There is really no reason to set goals if you don’t connect them to the right principles. If the connection is made achievement is within reach.

2012 On Purpose

Significant accomplishments only happen if they are done on purpose. A lot of things will happen in 2012 that require no planning at all. The question is, do I want my life filled with the meaningless, or the significant?

As a family we are taking some time to plan for the significant in 2012. We choose for our lives to be filled with meaningful things not futile activity.

Some questions we are asking ourselves.

1. In what ways can we keep Christ at the center of our lives daily in 2012

2. What are the meaningful big rock moments in each of our lives in 2012?

3. What is important to us as a family in 2012?

4. In what ways can we further develop ourselves spiritually, physically, mentally, relationally and financially daily in 2012.

5. As a family in 2012 how can we be the church, encourage the church and build the church daily in 2012.

6. How much and in what ways do we want to give and be generous in 2012?

7. Who do we want to mentor in 2012 and who do we want to mentor us in 2012?

8. What is important for each of us to study, research or read in 2012?

9. How much debt can we retire in 2012?

10. What are some planned breaks/time off we can have as a family in 2012?

Just some things to help us live on purpose in 2012. Hope this helps you and your family.

Mentoring is a Must

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I’m having a great time with my nephew today. He’s a great young man, with great parents.

What we all need as parents though is a positive mentor in the lives of our kids.

I remember in prayer one time I felt impressed that if I would mentor other people’s kids God will always bring positive people into the lives of my kids.

He has. If we are honest parents then we realize it takes others in the lives of our kids. Sometimes when they struggle talking to us it’s good for them to have someone they can go to. A youth pastor, a coach, a teacher, friend of the family someone you trust.

The next generation needs us. So find someone to mentor and make a difference in their lives.

Christmas Communion

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It’s my prayer that all of you are having a beautiful Christmas morning!

We have such a great time, giving and receiving love and presents from each other.

The way Janae and I keep Christ at the center of Christmas is to take communion with our girls, and read the Christmas story together.

I thank God that He sent Jesus for the redemption of all mankind. Jesus loves you, if you don’t know I encourage you to get to know Him its the best decision i have ever made. lets remember Him today.

A Great Idea

I have a great Idea…I was just thinking, one of the best ways to believe God for the great things He wants to do in our lives is to remember all the things he has done for us, and what we appreciate about Him. So testify!

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Merry Christmas

Merry Christmas!

This Christmas its my prayer that you and your family be blessed and prosperous in every way in this coming new year. We are so blessed and have a greater desire to serve the will of God then ever before. I believe this is a very important time for believers. A time to hold the name of Jesus High!

Thanks to all of you who read this blog and have a great time with your family and friends this Christmas Holiday! God bless you all!

Sincerely

David Gadberry

Wait Just a Minute

My soul waits for the Lord More than those who watch for the morning Yes, more than those who watch for the morning. (Psalm 130:6 NKJV)

Wait on the Lord; Be of good courage, And He shall strengthen your heart; Wait, I say, on the Lord! (Psalm 27:14 NKJV)

I wait for the Lord, my soul waits, And in His word I do hope. (Psalm 130:5 NKJV)

But those who wait on the Lord Shall renew their strength; They shall mount up with wings like eagles, They shall run and not be weary, They shall walk and not faint. (Isaiah 40:31 NKJV)

Sometimes in our faith journey the hardest thing to do is wait. There are many reasons why we find it difficult to do so.

1. Self reliance. We’ve been taught to pull ourselves up by our bootstraps. If you want it to happen do the work and make it happen.

2. Religious confusion. Many theologians have tried to remove most of the supernatural from the text, and many will say you do your part and God will do His part.

3. Anxiety. We just get stressed out waiting and want it resolved.

4. Instant gratification. Like spoiled children we just don’t like to wait.

Why is important to wait?

1. Waiting shows a reliance on God. Going to him first, setting our faith and actively obeying Him while we wait. Many kings like Saul got it wrong when they wouldn’t wait. Aaron let the people pressure him to make an idol because they could not wait for Moses.

2. Great things happen while you wait.

A. It’s a time, if we have faith in God, to renew our strength.

B. it positions us to endure and not be defeated by spiritual weariness.

C. The process of waiting brings discipline and maturity. It brings you out of the waiting season complete and prepared to succeed in the new season.

Sometimes it’s necessary even mandatory to wait. It’s ok, even peaceful to wait when our hope is in God.

So if your in the process don’t fear, or stress, just wait a minute, God is never late, because you’re on His time table He’s not on yours.

All I Want for Christmas is a Cheap Guitar?

A few years ago my wife and I were gearing up for Christmas. We were making our plan, putting the lists together, asking our kids what they wanted and enjoying every minute of it.

My youngest daughter was 4 years old at the time. She had her heart set on a little acoustic guitar we saw at cracker barrel gift shop.

Like a good dad I went to check this guitar out and what I found was a cute, cheap little acoustic guitar.

I immediately surmised that it was just a toy really and if my daughter wanted a guitar we would get the real thing. The guitar at cracker barrel was $15.

I decided to go to the music store and look at real age appropriate acoustics. I found one I thought was worthy of Sydney and bought it. It was I think $50. It had real strings you could actually tune it. I thought she is going to love it!

So the morning finally came. We got up and had our Christmas morning tradition, I read the Christmas story, we took communion as a family, then we opened the presents. I think I was more excited than she was.

I waited anxiously as she opened it and as I thought she would, she loved it, or at least that’s how it appeared.

We had a wonderful time opening presents and then we moved on with the day getting ready for grandmas house.

The girls were at the table eating breakfast and I was walking to my room down the hall and overheard their conversation. Sydney leaned over to Taylor and said in a quiet voice, “do you think Santa doesn’t know where cracker Barrel is?”. I was stunned, I went in my room and laughed so hard. She’s just so funny.

I thought how sweet she was to be gracious when it wasn’t what she really wanted. I thought how ridiculous it was for me to not just simply get what she asked for.

I love life, and I love family. I don’t know why us dads have to complicate everything, but it sure can evoke some funny responses.

Practical Ways to Defeat Insecurity

I recently received a comment on a blog about insecurity, it was a question. “How do I overcome insecurity in my life?”.

As I have already established in other blogs insecurity is nothing more or less than fear. Our fears are based on our own perceptions, what we believe about something. I believe there a four major areas in which we can have wrong perceptions that will establish a foundation for a cycle of insecurity in our lives. I think in order to break that cycle we must change what we think about these four areas.

1. How we relate to God
2. How we relate to self
3. How we relate to others
4. How we relate to our purpose/destiny

Our perceptions in these area can create security or insecurity. The key is to have the right perspective and be purposeful in these areas.

1. How to relate to God.

Many people have a wrong perception about how to relate to God and much of the time it has been because of religious teaching or just spiritual misconceptions. I always like to go to the source. God tells us how to view him in the bible.

Can you see how insecure you might be if your perception of God is skewed. If you believe Him to be a mean spirited ogre waiting for the opportunity to pounce on you for any reason at all. Or maybe you view him as a god with human emotion who is up one day and down the next. There are many inappropriate ways to view Him that will not keep fear out but actually invites fear in.

What is the appropriate way to view Him?

So He said to them, “When you pray, say: Our Father in heaven, Hallowed be Your name. Your kingdom come. Your will be done On earth as it is in heaven. (Luke 11:2 NKJV)

Jesus tells us to view Him as father.

For you did not receive the spirit of bondage again to fear, but you received the Spirit of adoption by whom we cry out, “Abba, Father.” (Romans 8:15 NKJV)

Paul tells us to view Him as father, even daddy.

Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and comes down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow of turning. (James 1:17 NKJV)

James tells us to view Him as father. A good, benevolent, loving father.

I could go deep into this but for the sake of brevity let me just ask you, if you view God as your loving, benevolent, father who knows you best and what is best for you, knowing that He has all power. What is there to be afraid of? When you see God as your dad you need not be afraid of anything. No reason to be insecure emotionally when you know Your father God has your back.

2. How to relate to self.

Note: Many times to break a cycle we must create a new one. A cycle of fear grows and expands in our lives until it overwhelms us. Imagine this cycle of proper perspective at work in your life. Viewing God correctly, causes us to view self accurately and appropriately, which helps us in having right thoughts about others and the role they play in our lives, which enhances confidence in our purpose and destiny in life. When we are sure about who we are and what We are here for it reinforces our perspective of the father who created us for that purpose.

Relating to self accurately is very important. Many people fail to be honest about who they really are. Strengths and weaknesses, wins and losses, goods and bad’s. There is entirely to much pretense in the world today. Authenticity is a deep need in the lives of so many. The reason we must start there is because you don’t want to build on a faulty foundation. If you build on a pretend version of yourself it won’t be long before your identity disintegrates into a pile of rubbish. Start with who you are and then begin to build on who you can be.

For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man observing his natural face in a mirror; for he observes himself, goes away, and immediately forgets what kind of man he was. (James 1:23, 24 NKJV)

I’ve often wondered what was meant by identifying yourself in the mirror and how that relates to being a doer of the word. Its because when we look into the word of God we see the potential of what we can be, and if we don’t do what we see then we have forgotten who we are.

Security comes when you realize that you may not currently be who you ultimately will be, but you’re not who you used to be. It’s getting comfortable in your own skin, the skin of who God has made you to be. Your identity is in him.

So if you know who you are in Christ and you see yourself that way. There is no need to be insecure because insecurity in identity is simply a feeling of inadequacy. In Christ you are more than adequate.

3. How to relate to others

It’s unreal how much insecurity is birthed out of misunderstanding the role others play in our lives. We get hung up playing the comparison game, or see others as our competition or worse we have a compulsion to attempt to please everyone. All of these behaviors are born out of the wrong perspective about the way to relate with others.

For in fact the body is not one member but many.

If the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I am not of the body,” is it therefore not of the body?

And the eye cannot say to the hand, “I have no need of you”; nor again the head to the feet, “I have no need of you.”

And if one member suffers, all the members suffer with it; or if one member is honored, all the members rejoice with it. (1 Corinthians 12:14, 15, 21, 26 NKJV)

In these three scriptures we learn a valuable lesson about how to relate to others.

In dealing with others

First, we must appreciate who God created us to be as it relates to whatever He created others to be. No need to compete or compare just relate.

Second, we must appreciate what God created others to be realizing we need their contribution in our lives, whatever that contribution is.

Third, we must learn that we are in this together. Not to please each other or to approve of each other but to combine our lives for the purpose of a greater cause and call.

So security comes when we see others not as the competition or the enemy but as our necessary partner in becoming everything we are intended to be. Your highest achievement is to become what God created you for, not what he created someone else for.

4. How to relate to your purpose and destiny.

For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. (Jeremiah 29:11 NKJV)

Gods plan for us is good, hopeful and filled with the greatest of purpose.

The key to identifying with your purpose is to embrace it. Don’t be intimidated by it, or attempt to exchange it. Rather live it, be it, do it.

When we realize our life is not some cosmic accident, or meaningless journey but it is destined to fulfill a higher purpose, then confidence and security become second nature to us.

If my father is God, whom shall I fear?
If I understand I’m significant in Christ, I’m secure and fulfilled
If I see people as my companions not my competition then I’m settled
If I see my purpose as a good plan from God then life has meaning.

If our perception is right in relating to these areas insecurity will have a hard time being prominent in our lives and we will win the battle over it.

That’s what I have to say, I hope it helps.